The most frequent women’s complaint from men is that men do not listen when they talk.
The man completely ignores the woman when she talks. Or he listens to her for a while, determines her problems, and immediately offers to her a decision to makes her feels better. He gets upset when she does not value his gesture of love. Independently how many times she says to him, that he does not listen to her, he continues doing the same. This what she wants is sympathy, not decision of her problems, as he thinks.
The most frequent men’s complaint from women is that they always try to change them.
When a woman loves a man, she feels responsibility. She wants to help him. That what he wants is she accepts him such as he is.
The self – confidence of a man is define of his ability to achieve good results. The men appreciate the force, the competence, the effectiveness, and the achievements. They always do something to prove themselves. They feel pleasure mainly of they own achievements. They are interest in „objects” and „things”more than the people and the feelings. Even today while women give play to their own fancy of love, men dream of powerful cars, computers and different technical innovations. Men are busy with „the things”, which can help them to express their force and realize their goals. For a man is very important to achieve his goals. In this way he proves his competence. They are proud of their independence. To offer an advice to a man, it means that he can not get through with his problems. In view of the fact that the man copes with his problems alone, he rarely talks about them. He does not talk of it unless he needs of EXPERT advice. But if he really needs of help, finding it is wisdom. In case of necessity he will share his proplem with someone who he respects. This habit is one of the reasons because of what men instinctively suggest decisions when women start talking about their problems. He wants to help her to feel better. He wants to be useful for her. The man does not suppose, that he can help by listening to her.
The women have different values. They appreciate the love, the beauty and the dealings with other. They spend a lot of their time by talking to each other. They like careing of each other, too. The self – confidance of a woman is difine of her feeling and her relations with people. It is very important for them to express their feelings. It is very difficult for a man to understand all that things. The women are very intuitional. If a woman offers help to another woman without been asked, this is a sing of big love between them. In most cases when a woman proposes an unwanted advice or when she tries to help him, she looks critical in his eyes. In spite of that her intentions are prompted by love, it is offended him. Her reaction is hurted him. For many of men are really and truly important to prove that they can achieve they goals. No matter how insignificantly is it. Like the driving. He can be more sensitive to smaller things than bigger things. His feelings are : „ If she can not trust me in such small things like driving, how she will believe me in bigger things like our relations?” At that very moment he needs of loving understanding the more. When the man feels that the woman does not try to reform him it is long odds that he will ask her for help. By the same token if our love partner opposes to us, that meens we were choosing the wrong moment to talk to him.
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