Who is Doing What?

Here are some of her responsibilities according to etiquette.

* The most important role is to congratulate. The mother of the groom should call the bride’s parents and congratulate and introduce herself to them.

Announcing how happy she is for the couple, she may want to invite them to dinner at her home or out to a special dinner. A formal get together or an informal one, it is important to get together with them.

* The Guest List. The mother of the groom should work with the bride and groom to determine what the right amount of guests should be. Should there be a limit; the groom’s mother should insure that she meets this limit. Providing a complete and accurate guest list quickly is essential.

* The Dress. The mother of the bride should select her gown first. The mother of the groom should match hers in style and in color. While it does not have to be exactly the same, it should coordinate. It should not match the bride or the bridesmaids.

* Out Of Town Guests. The mother of the groom should provide for out of town guests that are on the groom’s side. Making accommodations and transportation available to them is her job.