When interested in a special boy who has not asked you out, the first thing to try to discover is why. There are many different reasons why boys do not date, or do not date specific girls, and if you know what they are it will be helpful. Sometimes it’s not easy to determine a boy’s reason for not dating you, but often you can tell from his attitude, or from listening to others, what is behind his indifference.

Maybe He’s Shy

Many girls are faced with the problem of a boy who is too shy or unsure of himself to ask them for a date. Letting himknow that you like him in a discreet, unshowy way may help draw him out of his shell. Without chasing him, you can be friendly and courteous and let him know that you think he is datable. You might take the initiative the first time or so and invite him to a party at your house, or ask him over some Sunday afternoon to help make candy. Find out what his interests are and be a good listener. Most boys relax when they start to talk about things with which they are familiar. As soon as they realize that you’re interested in some of the same things they are, they’ll seek you out for company.

Maybe He Hasn’t Noticed You

What can you do about a fellow who dates girls but just doesn’t notice you? Well, acting in a loud conspicuous manner will make him notice you, but it will work in the wrong direction as far as making you datable in his eyes. What you have to do is be friendly without being a “clinging vine.”