ACCEPTING OR REFUSING A DATE

Whether to accept or refuse a date is not as clear-cut as it might seem at first glance. Many young women have questions regarding whether they should accept a specific invitation and how they should refuse if it is necessary. Girls are especially eager to find some way of refusing a date without hurting thefeelings of the boy involved. Even if she doesn’t care to date him at all, it’s still a good idea for her to decline the invitation in such a way that the boy will not feel hurt. If you’re rude or inconsiderate of a young man’s feelings, the word gets about. Other young men whom you might like to date may hesitate to call you because of a fear that you’ll be rude to them too.

If you would like to accept a date but have a previous commitment, you will want to find some way of letting the boy know that you would really like to go out with him. If you just say you’re sorry that you can’t make it, the boy may decide you don’t want to date him at all. So you refuse this invitation and yet let the boy know that you would be interested some other time.

Even accepting a date can be complicated. How can you let Steve know that you’re very happy to go out with him without seeming overeager? How can you show him that you’re sincerely interested in going with him, and not just using him as a free ticket to an event? Your attitude when accepting or refusing a date can greatly influence boys in giving future invitations.