Seniors and Sex

Many older adults and seniors report that their sex lives actually improve as they age. Once the children are grown and work doesn’t require the energy it used to, couples can relax together and enjoy each other without the old distractions. They find that senior sex gets better. When we’re talking about sex and online dating, we do feel compelled to tell you that you should never, ever do anything sexually that you aren’t comfortable with. Do not, under any circumstances, feel that you must have sex with someone just because they took you out on a date. However, if you feel the urge, and the time is right, there are some steps you can take to insure the sex is awesome – even at your age!

Communication is the key to real intimacy. As your body changes in the senior years, it’s important to communicate your thoughts, feelings, fears, and desires with your partner. Encourage your partner to communicate fully with you, too. Improving your communication will help both of you feel closer and can make senior sex more pleasurable. If you would like to try something new, discuss it with your partner, and be open to his or her ideas. The senior years, when you have more time and less distractions, can be a time of creativity and passion. Sometimes just talking about sex can make you feel sexy. Think about sex in a new way. As a senior, you might not be as comfortable with some sexual positions as you once were, but this does not mean you need to give up an activity that is pleasurable for you, and miss out on feeling close to your partner. Senior sex calls for creativity. Try different positions to find ones that please you and your partner. If erectile dysfunction is an issue, try intercourse with the woman on top, where hardness is less important. Experiment with positions that you both find comfortable and pleasurable. Make your senior years a time of sexual generosity and sharing. Expand your sexual play beyond intercourse. Holding each other, gentle touching, kissing, and sensual massage are all ways to share passionate feelings. You might experiment with oral sex and masturbation as ways to please each other in bed.

Keep your mind and body healthy. If you exercise regularly and eat a healthy, balanced diet, you’ll look and feel better for yourself – and your partner. And a healthy body will help you enjoy senior sex, no matter what your age.