Meeting in Person

If you’ve been talking with a person and have gotten to feel comfortable with them, you might want to rush right out to meet them in person, but there are a few things you should keep in mind before you do.

* Remember, the only way you’ve gotten to know this person is through what they have told you. The only image you have is what photo they’ve posted or through a webcam. We’re not saying they’re being untruthful with you, but you need to keep yourself safe when meeting someone for the first time.
* The most important thing is to meet in a public place preferably during the daylight hours. You don’t want to meet a perfect stranger in the dark night where there’s no one else around but you.
* Do not have them pick you up at home. Arrange for your own transportation to the agreed upon place. Make sure you have a full tank of gas in the event you need to make a getaway.
* Arrive a little earlier than the pre-arranged time so you can take stock of the environment. Take note of where the doors are in case you have to make a quick exit. Also find the nearest pay phone. They’re often by the restrooms.
* Perhaps you can meet for coffee in a local café. Try a museum or art gallery for your first date. Go where there’s going to be a lot of people. Bad things are less likely to happen if there’s a crowd around you.
* Why not consider a group date? Double dating can ease the anxiety you’re going to feel and make you more at ease. Plus, you won’t be alone with anyone and there will be many more chances of diverse conversation.
* Don’t plan to meet up without telling someone where you’re going. Make sure a family member or friend knows what time your meeting is and where it will be. That way if anything should happen, they’ll know where to find you.
* Have an exit strategy. If the person makes you feel uneasy or you just plain don’t like them, don’t feel bad about leaving. After all, your safety comes first. If it feels wrong, get out!